All posts by C. Doyle Hughes

Lover of Christ, wife, and children. Pastor, Reformed, Baptist.

The War on Sex

I’m not sure if you have noticed or not, but the issue of sex and all that goes with it has been making the news lately. In fact, it has been making news now for a few decades and it continue to grow, taking up more and more space and is becoming more and more heated. Some of the more recent news comes as the Vice President’s wife Karen Pence has taken a job at a Christian school teaching art part-time. Being a genuine Christian school, they take a firm stance on sex and sexuality. While the headlines make it all about homosexuality, the school actually takes a stance against all forms of sexual activity outside the bounds of one man to one woman marriage. Thus no pre-marital sex, no extra-marital sex, no pornography usage, no homosexuality, and the list goes on.

I’m not sure if those who are outraged are outraged that Karen Pence who claims to be a born-again Christian is living by her convictions or if they are outraged that anyone would dare have such convictions in the first place. That’s what this article seeks to address, how someone could have such convictions and why someone in this day and age would actually seek to publicly live by those convictions. To understand this reasoning, one must begin with the theology of sex. While I won’t have time to go through every biblical reference to sex, my hope is to at least give a framework toward a biblical theology of sex and sexuality.

  1. Sex is divinely given and enjoyable. It was God who created male and female, and his first command to them was, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it,” (Genesis 1:28). Three major points: 1) God created man and woman. He gave them each their respective body parts that not only made sexual union possible, but enjoyable. He is the one who put sensitive nerve-endings on those body parts. He is the one who put the testosterone and estrogen and dopamine chemicals into our systems. It was not by accident, but by design. 2) God expected man and woman–commanded man and woman–to have lots of babies, of course the only way to make that happen is to have lots of sex. Sex is commanded (at least in the confines of one man and one woman in marriage). 3) While not a popular concept today, sex and children are linked. Until recent history (about 100 years) sex and children were linked together. Today, with contraception and nearly on-demand abortion, such is not the case. But from a biblical perspective they are.
  2. Sex was designed to be without shame. When God brought Eve to Adam, we are told, “And the man and his wife were both naked and were not shamed,” (Genesis 2:25). Sin changed all of that. Once Adam and Eve rebelled against God’s commands, “the eyes of both were opened, and they knew they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths,” (Genesis 3:7). Notice, only loincloths. They didn’t cover their upper bodies, but only their sexual organs. There was now a separation, a distrust, a shame between husband and wife. From this point forward, sex was altered. Sex, in some way, had fallen when Adam and Eve fell.
  3. When sex fell, it began to be used wrongly. This would include forced sex. “When man began to multiply on the face of the land and daughters were born to them, the sons of God saw the daughters of man were attractive and took as their wives any they chose,” (Genesis 6:1). Many would say that the sons of God here are fallen angels, thus taking by force the daughters of man as wives. It would include homosexuality and rape. “But before they lay down, the men of the city, the men of Sodom, both young and old, all the people to the last man, surrounded the house. And they called to Lord, ‘Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us, that we may know them,'” (Genesis 19:4-5). Lot going out to convince them not to commit such an act, offered the alternative: “Let me bring [my virgin daughters] out to you, and do to them as you please,” (Genesis 19:8). There was incest. “Come, let us make our father drink wine, and we will lie with him, that we may preserve offspring from our father,” (Genesis 19:32). There is all the fun without any responsibility. Without going to much detail, Onan was taking his dead brother’s wife as his own so she could have a son by him. “But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his. So whenever he went in to his brother’s wife he would waste the semen on the ground, so as not to give offspring to his brother,” (Genesis 38:9). This is often used by some to speak against masturbation, but in reality, it is having the perks of sex without the responsibility of children. That could include masturbation, but not limited to it. It could simply be having “friends with benefits,” one-night stands, etc.  It includes prostitution and weaponizing sex. Tamar wrapped herself in garments to look like a prostitute, “When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. He turned to her at the roadside and said, ‘Come, let me come in to you,’ for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law,” (Genesis 38:15-16). Later, he found out that she was pregnant and angry because it would seem that she had extra-marital sex. When he sent word, she used his own staff and signet cord to frame him. Adultery would be included. “And after a time [Joseph’s] master’s wife cast her eyes on Joseph and said, ‘Lie with me,'” (Genesis 39:7). Joseph refused.  All of this is found in the first book of the Bible!!
  4. Laws were made to protect against the fallen-nature of sex. By the time the Israelites got out of Egypt, they had probably seen or heard about all the various sexual practices. Canaan was known for its licentiousness. God intended Israel to be a standard-bearer. They were to be distinct, different than the cultures around them. Thus he set up laws. Without going into every one of these laws, suffice it to say that they dealt with all the practices we see in Genesis and also included bestiality (see Leviticus 18).
  5. Sex is exciting. By the time one gets to the Proverbs one has a pretty good understanding about all the wrongs of sex, but not all the rights and excitement of it. Enter the Song of Songs (Song of Solomon). Here is a poetic expression of what sex is really to be like in marriage. It is fun, exciting, complicated, and enjoyable. There’s honeymoon sex, steamy sex, and even make-up sex right there in one book of the Bible. Christians don’t have a bad view of sex (at least they ought not to); we simply have an elevated view of sex. We want all that it was meant to be, not just what we can eek out.
  6. There is an emphasis on the wrongness of homosexuality, but there is a reason for it. 1) It goes against creation. God created man and woman, one man and one woman. Anything (divorce, extra-marital sex, polygamy, or homosexuality) goes against the created order. 2) Homosexuality actually goes completely in the opposite direction of the created order. While the other sexual sins deviate from the created order and are wrong, homosexuality does a complete U-turn from it (or transgenderism, lesbianism, etc.). This was Paul’s point in Romans: “For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men,” (Romans 1:26-27). For years the homosexual movement has been crying with all its might that this is not their choice; they were born this way. Lately, the transgender and fluid-gender movement has cried that they can be whomever they want to be; thus a choice. This has caused great consternation to their counterparts. Here Paul is speaking of not the choice of feelings, but the choice of actions.
  7. All Christians are called to self-restraint. Part of the teachings of the Bible are that we are to have self-control. It is, in fact, a fruit of the Holy Spirit (see Galatians 5:22-23). Paul wrote to Timothy that God gave us not a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control. The pastor is to be a man of self-control. Older men are to be self-controlled. Women are to be self-controlled. This self-control is not only in the area of sex, but in all areas of life, yet it does include sex. Hence, there is the prohibition on pre-marital sex, adultery, bestiality, etc. We are to restrain our inclinations, not give in to them. Just as we see a piece of jewelry that we like, but refrain from taking it, so we are to refrain from taking the man or woman simply because we want them.

That being said. . .God has called Christians to a higher standard. As we’ve seen, Christians are the outsiders when it comes to sex. We are in the minority. The fact that this war is recent for us is an anomaly. We are feeling invaded by the sexual revolution, when in reality, Christians are aliens in a world that has been in a sexual revolution since the fall. This was the society with which Corinth, Laodicea, Ephesus, Rome, and just about every other church within Scripture dealt. Christians are meant to be the kooks; we are supposed to look strange to people. We are supposed to believe weird things (let’s not forget that Christians were called atheists until the 3rd century; and that they accused us of cannibalism as well).  But let us also remember that while we may feel like society is crumbling around us (and maybe it is), the society is simply being themselves. This is nothing new (everything we see today, happened in Genesis). We are to love the people. We are to pray for them, but we are not to cast them away.

I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people–not at all meaning the sexually immoral of this world, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler–not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? God judges those outside. “Purge the evil person from among you.” (1 Corinthians 5:9-12).

Why purge the evil person from among us? Because 1) his sin will catch on like yeast to dough or like fire in California, 2) the church is to be an example of holiness, separation and purity (all types of purity). This is what Karen Pence is seeking to do. She believes the Bible’s doctrine on sexuality, and seeks to live by it (as all Christians are called to do). It ought not shock anyone that she is sticking to her convictions, but in case those people misunderstood the convictions she had, I hopefully have given at least a foundation to them.

I’d love to hear your feedback. Whether you agree or not. This is a hot-button issue, so I simply ask for civility and decency. If I find your comments to be the opposite (even if they’re in agreement with me), I will delete them. If they are civil and decent, even if they oppose my argument, they will remain up.

All Scripture is taken from the ESV published by Crossway Books.

If You Linger, You Die!

I was reading my Bible today, and the story of Lot in Sodom struck me hard all over again. If you aren’t familiar with the entire story, I’d encourage you to read Genesis 18-19 and get the idea of what is going on.

Lot saw these two angels coming, strangers to the land, and immediately bowed down and invited them into his home to stay.  While hospitality was a big deal in this culture, Lot was not simply trying to be kind to the strangers.  He understood what the men of Sodom were capable of doing.  He was being protective.  He knew the ways of his city and he was ashamed and fearful.

Notice that Lot wanted to get the men in his house as quickly as he could and then get them out before anyone else in the city woke up.  In an age of hospitality, you didn’t simply invite people to stay the night, but you offered to let them stay well into the day.  Before they ever accepted his offer, as politely as he could, let them know they would be leaving early as if he knew where they were going and that they were in a hurry to get there.  To the point that when the angels declined his offer, saying they’d just as well stay in the square and set up camp.  “He pressed them strongly; so they turned aside to him and entered his house. And he made them a feast and baked unleavened bread, and they ate,” (Genesis 19.3).

He pressed them strongly.  The mental image that you should have is that of Lot nearly tackling the men as they turned to go into the square.  He lunged at them.  Perhaps picture in your head Lot grabbing the men roughly around the chest and then smoothing out there robes, saying, “What’s the hurry?  I insist.  I won’t take no for an answer.”  Lot would do anything to keep the men from seeing the sin in which he lived.  So he made them a feast and baked unleavened bread.  Once again, hospitality but fast hospitality.  A feast, but unleavened bread. There was no time for bread to rise.  He needed them to go to sleep.  It’s like the mentality of Christmas for little children.  The sooner you go to bed the sooner Christmas comes.  The sooner they went to sleep the sooner morning would come and he could send them on their way.

Can you see yourself in story?  I can.  God, or perhaps one of his representatives enters into my sinful life, and all I can do is try and hide the life in which I know I live.  Just hoping that I can get through this moment without my sin catching up with me.  Everything is fine.  It’s all good.  Great to see you; stay for a while, a little while.  Pretending that nothing is going on outside the doors of your house.

But as Numbers 32.23 says, “be sure your sin will find you out.” I am not saying that Lot was anything like the men of Sodom.  However, as we will see, he was aversely affected by them.  “But before they lay down, the men of the city, the men of Sodom, both young and old, all the people to the last man, surrounded the house. And they called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us, that we may know them,” (Genesis 19:4-5).

Can you imagine the look of horror and shame on his face as he had to confront those men at his door?  Confronting sin is never fun.  It’s horrifying and it is shaming.  But sin is not something that will ever be hidden from God.  It is not something that one can pretend isn’t happening.  That sin is pounding at your door.  You hear it.  God hears it.  There’s no denying that it’s happening.  The question is, will you confront it?

Lot, mustered up his strength and confronted the men.

Lot went out to the men at the entrance, shut the door after him, and said, “I beg you, my brothers, do not act so wickedly. Behold, I have two daughters who have not known any man. Let me bring them out to you, and do to them as you please. Only do nothing to these men, for they have come under the shelter of my roof,” (Gen 19.6-8).

Here is why I say he was aversely affected by the people of Sodom.  Rather than giving up the two men, he was willing to give up two of his daughters.  Let this be a lesson for us all.  Sin will not allow half-hearted, half-measured efforts to be satisfied.  Sin is not to be trifled with.  It is not to be bargained with.  We don’t compromise with sin.  John Owen once wrote:

Let no man think to kill sin with few, easy, or gentle strokes. He who hath once smitten a serpent, if he follow not on his blow until it be slain, may repent that ever he began the quarrel. And so he who undertakes to deal with sin, and pursues it not constantly to the death.

“But they said, ‘Stand back!’ And they said, ‘This fellow came to sojourn, and he has become the judge! Now we will deal worse with you than with them.” Then they pressed hard against the man Lot, and drew near to break the door down’,” (Genesis 19.9).  Half-measured, half-hearted, compromising trifles are never enough when dealing with sin.  It’s kill or be killed.  As John Owen said, “Be killing sin or it will be killing you.”  The phrase, “pressed hard” in verse nine is the same word that was used when Lot urged the angels strongly to come to his home.  I like the NLT’s way of translating, the “lunged.”

At this point, the angels pull their host back in, strike the men with blindness, and tell Lot Sodom will be destroyed so he had better get his family out of there.  Lot went to his future sons-in-law, but they thought he was joking and did nothing.  Which leads us to verse 15 once again.  “As morning dawned, the angels urged Lot, saying, ‘Up! Take your wife and your two daughters who are here, lest you be swept away in the punishment of the city.’”  This is the second warning for Lot.  Punishment is eminent.  There is no time to waste.

Oh that we would understand that we must flee from wickedness immediately!  The promise of judgment is assured.  It is coming.  John Piper did a series of blogs that he calls A.N.T.H.E.M.

A – Avoid all possible temptation.

N – (this is the one I’m focused on) No. Say no.  Piper says we have about 5 seconds to say no before the temptation gets lodged in our minds and hearts.

T – Turn your eyes toward Christ.

H – Hold on to a promise from God

E – Enjoy Jesus more than sinful pleasure

M – Move away from idleness and find something to do.

The warning is true.  Judgment and punishment is coming and it could come at any moment.  We don’t believe it and so we do nothing about it. We are betting our very lives that this is not the moment.  But we are assured that as every second goes by, we are one second closer, and we don’t know when.  Say no immediately.  Don’t hesitate.  Don’t linger. Don’t be like Lot. We see in the very next verse these horrifying, awful, but so relatable words, “But he lingered,” (Genesis 19.16).  I think the whole of chapter 19 revolves around those three words.  But he lingered.

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