What are your hopes and dreams for your children? If you could narrow down all that you wish for your children, what would it be? Success? The American Dream? A better life than you had? Happiness?
How about wisdom? The book of Proverbs is mostly Solomon’s writings to his son. They are pithy sayings of general truths that are part of wisdom literature. Even the quickest of reads through the book one would not miss the number of times the word “wisdom” is used. But this morning, I came across this one verse that spoke louder than all the other verses in the chapter: “My son, if your heart is wise, my heart too will be glad,” (Proverbs 23:14, ESV).
Solomon, known for his wisdom, lets his son know that it is wisdom that will gladden his father’s heart. Surely, he understood something that we too easily miss. Outside of the salvation of our children’s souls, wisdom is the greatest gift they could receive, or to put it another way, wisdom is the greatest treasure (other than Christ) they should seek. Is that what you want for your children? When you pray over them and for them are you praying that they would grow in wisdom? When you instruct them, do you instruct them in the ways of wisdom? Do you demonstrate wisdom for them in the decisions you make, and explain why and how you made that decision, so they can learn to think wisely about every area of life?
Notice that Solomon threw in a word: “too.” He would not be the only one whose heart was made glad by the wisdom his child attained. Who else would be? The context doesn’t give us any clues, but we can make speculation: God would be pleased. We know that when God came to Solomon and asked him what he desired, he was pleased with Saul’s answering that he desired wisdom above all. “It pleased the Lord that Solomon had asked this,” (1 Kings 3:10, ESV). But we can also know that the child would be pleased. His heart would be made glad. “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and one who gets understanding,” (Proverbs 3:1, ESV). He would not be pursuing the things of the wicked, but the things that pertain to godliness. That is where gladness lies after all. “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night,” (Psalm 1:1-2, ESV).
So what is it that you hope and dream and wish for your child? Shall we put wisdom at the top of our lists, just below the salvation of their souls? Shall we not now fervently pray that God would grant them wisdom so that He, they, and we would be glad in heart? Let us be wise in our praying, and beg God to grant our children His wisdom.